First Meeting: 10 Safety Rules You MUST Follow

Exciting, But Safety First!

Your first meeting with a potential sugar partner is always exciting. But no matter how good your online chemistry is, safety must always come first. These 10 rules can save your life - literally.

🛡️ The 10 Safety Rules for First Meeting

1. ALWAYS Meet in a Public Place

The Rule: Your very first meeting must be in a place with many people around you.

Good places:

• ☕ Café during daytime
• 🍽️ Restaurant (not too fancy first time)
• 🌳 Public park (daytime, busy areas)
• 🛍️ Shopping mall café
• 🎨 Museum or art gallery

Bad places (AVOID):

• ❌ Their home or your place
• ❌ Hotel rooms
• ❌ Isolated areas (beaches, forests)
• ❌ Their car
• ❌ Private clubs or members-only venues

Why: In public places there are witnesses, help is available, and you can leave anytime.

2. Tell Minimum 2 People Where You Are

The Rule: Share your exact location with at least two trusted people.

What to share:

• 📍 Exact address of the venue
• 🕐 Time of meeting
• 👤 Name and profile link of person you're meeting
• 📸 Screenshot of their profile
• 🚗 Transportation plan

Implementation:

• Send live location via WhatsApp/iMessage to a friend
• Use safety apps like bSafe or Noonlight
• Agree on check-in times
• Set alarm to call your friend

3. Plan Your Transportation (Before and After)

The Rule: You must have total control over your own transport.

Good solutions:

• 🚗 Your own car
• 🚕 Taxi (book beforehand)
• 🚇 Public transport
• 🚴 Bicycle

Bad solutions (AVOID):

• ❌ Let them pick you up at home
• ❌ Ride with them
• ❌ Let them book your taxi
• ❌ Walk if it's far

4. Meet in Daytime First Time

The Rule: First meeting should be between 10 AM - 5 PM, preferably lunchtime.

Why daytime is safer:

• ☀️ Better visibility
• 👥 More people around
• 🍷 Less alcohol expected
• 🧠 You're more alert
• 🚕 Easier to get home safely

5. NO Alcohol or Drugs

The Rule: Stay 100% sober at first meeting. No exceptions.

Why:

• 🧠 Maintain full judgment
• ⚡ React quickly if necessary
• 🚫 Avoid being taken advantage of
• 💊 No risk of date rape drugs
• 📊 Studies show: 67% of dangerous situations involve alcohol

What you can order:

• ✅ Coffee or tea
• ✅ Juice or soda
• ✅ Water
• ✅ Non-alcoholic mocktails

If they pressure you to drink:

"I don't drink on first meetings, personal rule."

If they insist: 🚩 RED FLAG! Someone who respects you will respect your boundaries.

What if they order alcohol? That's fine - they can drink. You don't have to. Watch their consumption: 1-2 drinks = ok, more = potential concern.

6. Set a Time Limit (Max 1-2 Hours)

The Rule: Agree in advance that first meeting is short - 1 hour for coffee, max 2 for lunch.

Why short first meetings are smart:

• 🚪 Easy exit strategy (you have "other plans")
• ⏰ Less pressure, more relaxed
• ✅ If it's good, you'll both want a second meeting
• ❌ If it's bad, you have an excuse to leave

What you say:

"I'd love to meet for coffee! I have time between 1-2 PM on Saturday, does that work?"

After 1 hour, if it's going well:

"Time flew by! I'd love to meet again, but I need to run now."

After 30 min, if it's bad:

"Sorry, I just got a message - I need to leave. Thanks for the coffee!"

Pro tip: Use a "safety call" - ask your friend to call after 45 minutes. If the meeting is good, say "all is ok, will call later". If bad, use it as an excuse: "Emergency, I have to go!"

7. No Gifts or Money at First Meeting

The Rule: Do NOT accept money, checks, gifts, or "loans" at first meeting.

Why:

• 🎣 It can be manipulation ("you owe me now...")
• 💰 Legitimate sugar daddies don't give money to strangers
• 📜 It can create unspoken expectations
• 🚫 It can be a scam (check bounces, fake money)

What you should do:

• If they offer money/gift: "That's sweet, but let's get to know each other better first"
• If they insist: "I don't feel comfortable with that" → Red flag if they get angry
• Pay your own bill first time if you want (or let them pay the bill, but nothing more)

Exception: It's OK if they pay for the coffee/lunch. It's NOT ok:

• ❌ Cash in an envelope
• ❌ "Here's $500 for shopping"
• ❌ Jewelry or expensive gifts
• ❌ Checks or bank transfers

After several meetings: Once trust is built (3-5 meetings), it's natural to discuss arrangement terms.

8. Verify Their Identity (Video Call First)

The Rule: ALWAYS do a video call before first meeting.

What the video call proves:

• ✅ They are a real person (not catfish)
• ✅ They look like their photos
• ✅ They can hold a normal conversation
• ✅ Their environment seems normal
• ✅ You get a "vibe" before meeting

How to request it:

"I always do a quick video call before meeting in person - it's my personal safety rule. Does tomorrow evening at 8 PM work for you?"

If they refuse: 🚩 MAJOR RED FLAG!

• Legitimate people understand and respect this
• If they won't video call, they're hiding something
• Do NOT meet them

Video call checklist:

• They look like profile photos
• Background is normal (home, office)
• They can answer questions naturally
• Audio/video quality is good (not hiding)
• You feel comfortable

Red flags during video call:

• ❌ Won't turn on camera
• ❌ Strange background or location
• ❌ Avoids eye contact
• ❌ Can't answer basic questions
• ❌ Different person than photos

9. Google Them (Reverse Image Search + Name)

The Rule: Do research before meeting.

Step 1: Reverse Image Search

• Go to images.google.com
• Upload their profile photo
• Check if it appears on other profiles/websites
• If yes: Stolen photos = Scammer

Step 2: Google Their Name

• Search their full name + city
• Look for LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram
• Verify their job/business if mentioned
• Check for news articles or criminal records

Step 3: Phone Number Lookup

• Search their phone number on Google
• Use services like Truecaller
• See if it's linked to scam reports

Step 4: Use Platform Verification

• Check if they have verified badge
• See how long profile has been active
• Read reviews if platform has them

What you're looking for:

• ✅ Consistent information
• ✅ Real social media presence
• ✅ Verifiable employment/business
• ✅ No scam reports

Red flags:

• ❌ Stolen photos
• ❌ Multiple different names
• ❌ No digital footprint at all
• ❌ Scam reports on phone number
• ❌ Inconsistent stories

10. Trust Your Gut Feeling

The Rule: If something feels wrong, IT IS WRONG. Leave immediately.

Your intuition exists for a reason. Millions of years of evolution have fine-tuned your ability to detect danger.

Common gut feelings and what to do:

"This feels rushed" → They want to meet same day, skip video call, or move to private location → ACTION: Slow it down. If they won't, cancel.

"Something doesn't add up" → Inconsistent stories, vague answers, changes subject when questioned → ACTION: Ask direct questions. If still uncomfortable, leave.

"This person is aggressive" → Pushy, angry when you set boundaries, demands things → ACTION: Leave immediately. Block them.

"I feel pressured" → Pressure to drink, go somewhere else, give personal info → ACTION: Say no firmly. If continues, leave.

How to leave immediately:

Polite exit:

"I'm not feeling well, I need to go. Thanks for your time."

Emergency exit:

"Excuse me, I need to use the restroom." (Then leave through another exit)

Direct exit:

"I don't feel comfortable. I'm leaving now."

You don't owe anyone an explanation. Your safety > their feelings.

Trust these signs:

• Sweating palms
• Racing heart
• Feeling trapped
• Wanting to leave
• Something "feels off"

Don't rationalize it away. Don't be polite. Just leave.

✅ First Meeting Checklist

Day before:

• Confirmed time and place
• Video call completed
• Googled them
• Told 2 friends where you'll be
• Planned transportation
• Set end time

During meeting:

• No alcohol/drugs
• Watch your drink
• Observe for red flags
• Set boundaries if needed
• Keep meeting short

Conclusion

Your life and safety are ALWAYS more important than politeness or a potential arrangement.

Remember the 3 golden rules:

1. 🌍 Public place first time, no exceptions
2. 👥 Tell friends exactly where you are
3. 🧠 Trust your intuition - if it feels wrong, leave

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Read also:

• How to Spot Scams and Fake Profiles
• Privacy Guide: Protect Your Identity
• Safety in Sugar Dating - Complete Guide